This is a short post to address what many of us feel and never share. It is okay to say this... " I cannot make a decision and I am overthinking things." The common expression for this is "paralysis by analysis." It is important when you begin to let your emotions get the best of you to simply-- take a time out. Go clear your head and think about something different. I challenge you at such times to remember that so many of the things in life… we tend to over think, dwell on, and waste energy pondering... are simply…
Human beings are quite interesting. You see, the more we learn- the more likely it is– we will realize how little it is that we know!
So, my hypothesis is that the more any human being knows… the more likely they are to recognize know little they actually know. This is very true in the leader development process. The other day a friend and I discussed 4 common stages of leader development. The 4 stages are listed below.
#1: Unconsciously Incompetent. In this stage, we are oblivious to what we do/ don’t know or know. Thus, we may think we know more than we actually do and/or overestimate our knowledge, skills and abilities.
Stage #2: Consciously Incompetent. This means we have become aware of our "blind spot: and of how much we do not know. So in this stage, we are now aware of what we DO NOT KNOW.'
Stage #3: Consciously Competent: In this stage, we are now aware of what our skills, knowledge, and abilities are and how developed they are etc.
Stage #4: Unconsciously Competent: In this stage, we are quite competent in what we know/do and it comes as second nature to us. In other words, we do not need to think about it.
So, the fact is this… we are all on a journey in our leader development. What stage are you in? Do you seek to get to the next stage? What do you think?